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I’m writing this post in response of hearing the good news from my friend and a fellow Asian blogger, Charles Lau from Singapore. In a short time he will be married and he will have a new life from that point.

In America, marriage is looked down upon by the vast majority of America’s mainstream society because it restricts a guy and a girl from sleeping around and trying out different people. In the East, especially from the Middle-East countries to the Pacific countries, marriage is considered a duty in life.

I’m writing this post from a male’s perspective and what goes on in the guy’s mind regarding this issue. If you were confused about deciding to get married or not and you wanted to see if marriage is right for you then read on. If you think marriage is a waste of time and there’s no point of getting married then I suggest you don’t read any further because it’ll only waste your time and it’ll contradict your anti-marriage views.

Do you want to have company?
In life there are many ups and downs and we all need someone in those moments. We always need someone to share our sorrows and happiness. If you are a social person and if you want to always have someone around then marriage is right for you. When we get old our children will have families of their own and they won’t have time to spend time with their parents. Even if do you live with your children when they are grown up and settled, they will not have time to talk to you or spend time with you. There is a reason why children separate themselves form their parents, because their mentality is different than their parents. Now most likely you’re not going to have kids if you are not married unless you live in the West, in which having kids before marriage is a common practice. However, for the majority of the world couples don’t have kids before marriage. Staying with the topic, when you get old you’re not going to have many loved ones around you; you will be lonelier in your senior years than you were in your younger years. Throughout your life if you don’t have someone beside you then your life will be unstable. With marriage someone will always be there to be your friend, and someone will always be there to help you out in the time of need.

Now if you grew up in the West, you may think living with a person that you’re not married is acceptable. I’m from the East and living with a girl before marriage is looked down upon. Having sex before marriage is looked down upon in my religion and from my community. And in the West living with someone, having sex with someone, and even just being with someone intimately before marriage is a common practice. Perhaps that’s why divorce rate in the West is over half the marriage rate. And so if you lived with a girl and if your girlfriend left you then your back to where you began; you’ll be alone again. However, when you are married your union is bound by a contract which is recognized by the authorities so, you cannot and your spouse cannot leave each other. The marriage contract will guarantee you and your spouse that both of you will be in the union regardless of what happens. So, you two will learn to live with each other and learn from each other.

Can you treat her right?
This is very difficult to most of the people of my gender. I for one know that when it comes to a girl a guy must have a lot of patience and compassion. Girls are delicate and they are sensitive; of course I can’t say that for all girls, but for most girls it’s the case. Treating your partner is very important and before even thinking about marriage you should think about how much patience you have and if you can put it to use because with relationships, one time or another you will argue with her. Treating her right breaks down to many branches, but that’s another ten page essay so, we won’t get into that. Basically little things here and there make up a lot in treating her right. Such things as cleaning up after yourself; I know as guys we tend to get messy, especially after working out or coming from work in my case.

Can you speak to a girl properly?
Another factor in this case deals with if you can talk to her right; as in can you talk to her in sweet words. Socializing with her in a proper manner can make the entire relationship run smoothly. Let’s say she did something wrong, such as maxing out the credit card, and yes girls are shopper maniacs at times. She maxes out the credit card by buying variety of different shoes. When you receive the bill, don’t yell at her. However, if you do then give her and your self time to cool down. Then when you’re ready go to her, sit down next to her, and talk with her to work things out. Instead of yelling, try talking in a calm manner, because then she would listen to you more.

Are you mature enough for her?
This is where age comes into play. Age plays a great role in the maturity of the couple. Usually the relationship runs smoother if the male is a bit older, about 4+ years older, than the female. I’m saying this because usually guys of the Asian community marry around their mid 20s to their late 20s. In the Western community people get married in their 30s. Naturally us guys fully mature in our late 20s, because at that time we have gained enough experiences of life to make right decisions. We know the right from wrong at that time. I could be wrong for a small percentage of the males; however, overall, this does apply to the majority of the males.

Conclusion
Marriage is not a mere practice of union that supposed to last for several days to several weeks like Hollywood marriages. Marriage is something that should be respected and taken a lot of though before making such a decision. Marriage is a religious and a cultural practice dating back thousands of years. It’s brings together families and thus communities to live in harmony so, that’s why it should be taken seriously.

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The recent Gaza assault by the Zionist forces should be a wake up call to the world that just because Israel is supported by the lobbyist of Washington D.C., they are not victims instead, they are murders who are responsible for so many deaths. The innocent people who died means nothing to Israel. The militant group Hamas, was really a creation of Israel, for Hamas was created to counter Israel’s terrorists ways for human injustice.

We’ve had 50 years of assault on Palestinians Rights.

I think they are the most terrorized, at least with the Iraqi people, they’re the most terrorized people on earth and have been for so many years…

Practically every Palestinian lives in constant harassment, threat of violence, humiliation. It’s been that way for a long long time…
- Former U.S. Attorney General Ramsey Clark

Ya Philistine!

The Almighty will punish them (Israel) for their crimes against humanity in this world. Hell is hungry and ready for the pro-Israel criminals.

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Let’s face it, no all of us want the 9-5 jobs. Usually these jobs deal with IT, business consulting, financial representative, customer service, etc. What we want to work at a job where we can always enjoy working there. I have worked in several areas in the US job market: retail, customer service, business solutions, risk-management, online business, and online marketing. I was never passionate for any of them, and I thought to myself that I can always do better. It wasn’t because of the job, but it was because of the people who worked with me. Some of them never went to college, others get drunk every weekend, and that’s not the type of people who I wanted to be around with. On top of that I never liked any of the jobs in the past, because they didn’t mean anything to me. When I put in my heart and effort into a job, I want it to mean something. I wouldn’t choose not to work at a place because of the people but the people I worked with just don’t put the effort to go further in life. Their plans of living is making at least $1500 a month to pay for rent, watch movies, get laid with prostitutes, and get drunk. Because of their perceptions they end up at the job they were in. I only ended up there because I was young and I was still in school, but all my co-workers were older and out of school.

Anyways, I may sound shallow but there are people like that who wastes their lives just doing nonsense things. Instead, they could be doing something productive by helping others or raising their standard of living. Over my years of working in the US job market I figured out what factors to consider when choosing a job. These questions should be considered in determining to see if the job they land in is perfect for them.

What type of environment do you want to work in?
Many people like the office desk job because it requires less labor on the feet and more sitting. In an office desk job the employee basically sits majority of the work day and does paperwork. Certain office jobs require more than just doing paperwork such as call centers, in where you sit in your cubicle all day and answer customer service calls. Or, you sit in your cubicle and do background searches by conducting searches in criminal databases and calling courts. Some jobs require you to work in a team-oriented or self-oriented environment; you have to decide if you want to work alone or work in a team.

Most corporate jobs in America require you to work in a team-oriented environment doing projects. If you want to do law, such as lawyers or paralegals, it requires you to interact with others such as clients, police officers, court clerks, and more. Or, if you want be a medical doctor, you’re definitely need to be social, because doctors are constantly in direct contact with their patients, nurses, lawyers, accountants. So basically, no matter what, you need to be social. When you decided to get a job you should know before-hand that majority of the time you will be working with other people. There are very rare jobs that requires you to work in a self-oriented environment, such as a lab technician or a lab researcher, in which you work by yourself all day in a lab.

Is your job available around the world?
One of the other factors you should consider is that if you get a certain job, will you be able to work in other countries. For example, Barclays bank, a British bank, that has branches in USA also has job in the United Kingdom. Nowadays, foreign companies are buying out US companies because the US companies are failing left and right in this economy. Those types of job are just in the business field; in which you have limited access to job in other countries. Other jobs, in the science field, such as engineering can be found all over the world. The changing world always needs electrical engineers to help manage and build cities’ electrical infrastructures. Also, medical doctors, who are licensed in the United States, can work any where in the world. US doctors have an advantage to get a job in virtually any country in the world because USMLE (United States Medical Licensing Exam) certifications are recognized by almost all the countries, correct me if I’m wrong. Medical doctors in the US have an edge since US medical exams are credible all around the world.

Is your job meaningful?
Whichever occupation you choose, be able to determine if it’s meaningful. When I say meaningful, I mean is it something that will benefit others in a humanitarian way. For example: doctors, engineers, and immigration lawyers; medical doctors help others gain good health from recovering from illnesses. Engineers help build, repair, and maintain city infrastructures for the masses to live in. Then we have immigration lawyers in the United States, where they aid immigrants to get their permanent residency or citizenship. So, basically I believe a job that is meaningful is a job that helps others.

Overall, don’t stay with a job that you’re not happy with. If you have future goals of getting a meaningful job, then go for it. Don’t stick with your current job if it’s meaningless; make your current job temporary to prepare yourself for something better. Always go for something higher than what you are in currently; most people have the potential to do so.

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I’m trying more and more ways to motivate myself to write on personal development. This article excluding this paragraph is sinfully long; it’s around 1000 words. However, it mostly deals with sex so you may enjoy it.

My posts deals with a guy’s point of view so, I’m writing in this article based on the male’s perception. It’s kind of funny that I’m writing this post since I’m in America and most people can’t control their lust in this country. Lust is something that makes people frustrated and they don’t think straight half the time. Over in America it’s common for people to sleep with three to four people before getting married, which is kind of absurd according to me, since I’m from the East. For American teens it’s common to loose their virginity before going to college. For boys, they try to get “laid” on prom night on their senior year or earlier in high school. Also, a lot of guys in America carry a condom in their wallet, just in “case” they need to use it to satisfy them selves.

Anyways, moving on with this topic, we can’t always express ourselves sexually to gratify ourselves. We live in a civilized society where we can’t just have sex with random people. Over the years, due to my religious faith, I had to find ways to control my urges. So far I believe I successfully accomplished them. To control your sexual desires is to control your self from falling apart. If you have sex with random people you may get sexual transmitted diseases which can make you ill or on a serious matter it can kill you.

Work Out
Your body has a lot of potential energy. When you work out you’re usually too tired to even think about sex or even go looking at girls which can trigger your lustful ways. Instead of letting your energy get stored away for sex, you can use it to workout and get stronger and stay fit. By working out, you’re getting your mind off of sex and concentrating on the development of your body’s strength and endurance. If you exercise often you won’t have thoughts that promotes triggering your sexual drive.

Be Active
On days when you don’t work out, don’t just sit there, do something. Look around to find something to do such as play games with your family, or go out with friends and watch a movie. Or go outside and take a walk in your neighborhood or in a nearby park to relax your mind. Or be like me, write articles to help others, or get on FaceBook, or whichever social network you’re on.

Have People Around You
Do your best NOT to stay alone. If you stay alone sexual thoughts may creep in and it may trigger your sexual desires. You may start looking at girls’ “assets” as they pass by you in the streets or you may start looking at porn, which is not good. Always try your best to have a friend with you and hangout. Do something that requires a lot of energy such as playing bowling or bicycling. I always keep myself busy by hanging out or being on the phone with someone, that way at least somebody is talking to me and I’m not alone.

No Pornography
When I was in high school I was tempted to look at porn many times by these Mexican kids. These Mexicans would bring in porn magazines from their older brothers or somebody and look at them during lunch. They would push me to look at them, but due to me religious faith I always turn away, even though in the back of my head I was always tempted to see the wonders behind a girl’s shirt. Porno content should always be avoided; pornography promotes people’s sexual drives unnecessarily. Porno has corrupted society in which it promotes unethical sexual actions. Nowadays there is no shame in revealing private parts of one’s body. The internet is full of porn; according to blogging-ads, “sex related sites on the net make up a vast majority of online content”. Don’t get caught into this.

Don’t Jerk It
Regardless of how strong your sexual drive is, do not masturbate. If you masturbate to release your frustrations then you’re going to be caught in a constant cycle. And in this cycle you’re not deviating away from controlling your lust, you’re actually promoting your lustful ways. So, you may wonder how to get rid of the frustration. In my opinion just leave it; on some nights you may have wet dreams, and that’s how you should release your frustration. The reason I advise against masturbation is because it can lead to an addiction of doing it. The side effects of excessive masturbation includes:

• Fatigue, you’ll be tired most of the time
• Lower Back Pain
• Stress; you’ll be stressed out for the most little things.
• Thinning of the hair, leading to hair loss
• Soft and weak ejaculation
• Premature ejaculation
• Groin /Testicular pain
• Pain or cramp in the pelvic cavity

By masturbating you’re not only harming your body but your also harming any daily productive work you may be doing. Such work may be your job, you may be too tired to think and concentrate on your work, and this may affect you negatively in your career advancements.

Conclusion
If you really want to control your sexual desires, I suggest you to get married if you have the financial means. If you don’t have the financial means in getting married then I suggest you practice restraint until you do. There is no reason to sleep around to “try” different girls’ flowers. If you do, you will not have a stable life and on top of that you increase your chances of getting sexual transmitted deceases. A happy marriage life is a healthy life, in which you get to have sexual satisfaction and you’ll be happy with it. I will not get into the topic of marriage; it will be on another post. But my best advice is to refrain from having anything that leads you to loose control of your sexual drive.

If you have questions, feel free to ask me.

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I was part of several free blogging services and I learned a lot from blogging there. I joined both WordPress and Blogger and I compared both of them.

I reminded you in earlier blog posts that I will gain traffic the cheap way. I also said you should never blog harder but blog smarter, and that’s what I did.

WordPress has the tag system in which, your tags will get you a significant amount of traffic depending on what which tags you choose. I was blown away to find out that within the first two days I got a good number of comments from other bloggers within the network.

I wanted to join the Blogger.com network but I was familiar with the WordPress platform which I have been blogging with for years.

The downside with the WordPress network is that you can’t add much without the admins’ permission such as Google AdSense, which is currently in consideration, but not allowed at the moment. And you can’t add any plug-ins, themes, or anything of that sort. However, I’m happy that at least a lot more people were reading my content.

As soon as I saw the traffic coming in and the comments I quickly changed the name servers to the WordPress servers. I quickly did my best to transfer my old post to my new account on WordPress since I changed the name servers without saving my posts first.

What’s also a great thing with this is that I don’t have to pay for server fees. I only have to pay $7.95 for my domain from my registrar, plus $10 to WordPress to have a domain connected to my WordPress account. I used to pay $179.40 a year or $14.95 a month for server fees plus $7.95 for the yearly domain renewal. But now I’ll be saving $161.90 every year, that’s what I call blogging smarter, financially.

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This is a very old video but it’s a classic. Former Pakistan’s President Pervez Musharraf is interviewed by Jon Stewart on The Daily Show. This was recorded on 2006 if I’m correct.

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